I'm past the stage that requires me to refresh my gmail account every 5-10 minutes with hopes of a reply or a new "to do" list.
Now I wait.
From what I've noticed, many surrogacy blogs begin a little too late to really understand what the beginning of the "process" entails.
Let me tell you.
Last Monday night, April 22, I applied with Circle Surrogacy (a very long application, by the way). By Tuesday night, my junk folder had been notified that I was accepted for pre-screening. I found out on Wednesday when Jeni, the surrogacy coordinator, called me. Do you know that feeling when the blood in your body stops and turns cold and a bit tingly? That's what I felt when I saw I missed a phone call from an unfamiliar number. It was unfamiliar, but I knew, generally, who it was.
I will now condense what I experienced and the preliminary process until now:
- 4/24 - Phone meet and greet with the surrogacy coordinator. Sent family pictures, copy of DL and insurance.
- 4/25 - Sent completed a welcome packet (similar to the initial application but with releases for med. records) AND won the "most organized" status for the day (just let me brag a little, I rarely receive that prize...).
- 4/26 - I then was tasked with an insurance application with the agency my OB clearance form.
- 4/29 - Mailed my personal insurance booklet to HQ.
- 4/30 - Appointment with OB. "You're cleared! Oh, but I stopped delivering babies..." That is not necessarily a direct quote, but you get the picture. So, I've been cleared by my [former] doctor. Next...
- 5/1 - Waiting on prenatal records. Chatted with Jeni. Picked her brain. She is so much easier to get information out of than those surrogacy forums... Also, she told me I should
probablydefinitely tell my parents as quickly as possible. Planned visit with parents
- 5/2 - Told my boss about this ensuing adventure. Positive feedback. She even teared up a bit.
- 5/3 - Social worker phone interview set. Justin and I will both complete this. My interview will be 2-2.5 hours. Justin's will be about half an hour... Apparently, guys have far less to say.
So, I am now in the screening phase. I will speak to the social worker who will create a profile for me and my family. I will, at some point in the near future, complete a psychological exam via Skype with a psychologist from MA, HQ for the agency. I will then get matched with my intended parents. My IPs.
Nervous? A little bit.
About injections, IFV, meeting the IPs? No
About raising the blood pressure, stress and anxiety levels of my parents? Yes. Definitely.